Date: July 19, 2008
Time: 5:00pm
Place: Work

Woman have many secrets that they just wont share with any body, contrary to popular belief intimacy and honesty doesn't mean you should tell all to your partner. Sharing too much information can be destructive to a relationship. Tell only on a need to know basis. You don't need tell your lover how many other partners you have had before he came along, and certainly don't give any details of past experiences. It won't help your relationship and if something happened that has really affected you and/or will continue to have an impact on your life, you should tell your partner. He doesn't have to know that you have dated someone once or twice, but he should be told of a long term relationship, especially if you were married or engaged before. Withholding information can hurt a relationship if there are serious or ongoing issues between you and your partner. I know you want "no secrets" between you two from the start, but think first before you turn yourself out. Only tell secrets that are pertinent to the situation at hand. If there are any personal secrets, he should hear them from you. You must use your own best judgment as to how much and how far back you should go when spilling those little secrets. Don't tell him secrets just to get them off your chest, which is not fair to him or yourself. If the secret is a life or death piece of information, he or she certainly has a right to know. If the secret is going to come out eventually, your partner should hear it from you. Revealing secrets can make the two of you closer, but do so slowly and with caution. Trust is something a couple builds over time.